Marriages in jungle communities of Cross River State of Nigeria until now are but to evolve to the trendy norms and customary of marriages. For instance, a seventy yr outdated man is allowed to be joined to a ten yr outdated lady in wedlock. The next sorts of marriages are practiced.
The Becheve Free Lady and Cash Lady:
The becheve folks have two sorts of marriages specifically the “free girl and cash girl”.
THE FREE WOMAN MARRIAGE: Is when a younger man approaches a younger lady who’s already matured, and each of them start to dwell collectively as husband and spouse with out bride worth being paid to the lady’s mother and father. The wedding could also be blessed with youngsters besides that they don’t belong to the person however the lady’s mother and father. Once more, the kids might select to bear their father’s title however he can’t have costody of them nor can the kids inherit their father’s properties. Based on Becheve customized and custom, younger males aren’t permitted to marry the ladies they hope to spend the remainder of their lives with, till they’re over sixty years and above. Earlier than that age restrict, the younger males begins saving cash till it is sufficient to marry.
THE MONEY WOMAN MARRIAGE: The Cash Lady is Becheve man’s actual spouse. When a person has gotten sufficient cash starting from 100 thousand to 3 hundred thousand Nigerian forex, solely then can he begin planning to marry cash girl who’s often an toddler of at some point outdated to 6 years of age. The person engages the lady and visits her household till he has gotten sufficient cash to pay for her full bride worth. Every time the person visits her household, he offers them presents together with cash. Generally goats, pigs, and chickens are offered to the household as an indication of intention to marry their toddler youngster. A date is mounted for the normal marriage and nicely wishers are invited to the ceremony. The wedding is being performed and officiated by the elders and the Chief Priest of “Ekumbo god”.
On the finish of the normal marriage, the bride worth is paid to the lady’s father earlier than she is formally handed over to the person as spouse. The husband then arms over his spouse to his first spouse (free girl) to nurture. Most instances, by the point the lady is sexually lively, the person would have been eighty years of age and due to this fact too weak to carry out his position as husband. So he permits her to go outdoors the matrimonial dwelling and to satisfy different younger males which might be keen to make love together with her. If in the middle of the illicit affair, she turns into pregnant and offers start to youngsters, they robotically belong to her authorized husband and due to this fact have rights to his properties.
If a person has Cash girl, he’s not considered a “man” in Becheve tradition.
THE OLITI LOAN MARRIAGE:The Oliti folks of Akwaya a border city with Republic of Cameroon follow mortgage marriage. Mortgage marriage is when a father or a mom of a younger lady borrows cash to satisfy his or her urgent wants, and can’t pay again as agreed.
The Lender approaches his debtor with a preposition to take his daughter as spouse for him or for his son. The debt now stands as half fee of the bride worth on his daughter pending the ultimate preparations for the wedding.
As an illustration, a girl had borrowed cash to pay her mom’s hospital invoice however couldn’t pay again on the agreed date. Then the creditor demanded the girl’s fifteen yr outdated daughter to be married to her son who was allegedly a legal in a close-by village. This lady had wept profusely when the mom advised her of her plan to provide her away in marriage to the stated legal whose mom had lend her some cash she was unable to pay again.
All efforts by a Christian Group to intervene within the matter proved abortive because the mom stated all of the marital necessities have been fulfilled and they’re ready for the day the lady could be taken to the person’s home. The lady’s mom stated they might not refund the debt at that time therefore, the one choice left was to pressure her daughter to the person’s home to be his spouse. It was reliably gathered that there are lots of ladies on this group who’re present process the mortgage marriage.
THE BOKI TRIAL MARRIAGE:Lots of people in Boki and different elements of Cross River State of Nigeria follow trial marriage. Trial marriage is when a husband and spouse dwell collectively for quite a few years earlier than bride worth is paid. Some mother and father even have youngsters who’ve graduated from College however who aren’t legally married.
The reason being that when a younger man and girl fall in love, they begin residing collectively committing immorality. Typically when the younger man approaches the lady’s father or mother for introduction, they’re advised to proceed to dwell collectively and examine themselves. When they’re by with this course of, they then method their mother and father for conventional marriage.
By the point they go for his or her conventional marriage, the girl would have gotten many youngsters for the person. Many ladies have been subjected to this marriage as a result of among the males have dumped them for different girls. There are such a lot of girls within the State who stay single on account of this follow. A few of these victims are nonetheless of their father’s homes or their very own homes with out husband.